A Tough Day

It wasn’t a good day at work.

I had to bring this young engineer into my office and tell him to shut up.

He’s young, and like many young kids he gets a bit mouthy, especially in the hallways where other people can hear him.

Sure, we’d all like to make more money and sometimes the promotions come slow – but complaining about it publicly is never a good thing.

I remember what it’s like to be him.

When you’re 22 you own the world and you know you can do anything you want and do it well…and you want it now.

I have to remember nobody knows the rules in their first job.

We don’t come out of college with a sheet of paper telling us what we should and should not do to stay out of the politics of the office.

Be nice, be appropriate, don’t risk, don’t push.

I don’t remember when the enthusiasm of youth goes away.

When you have a mortgage or a couple of kids or the corporation finally beats you down?

When the boss (me) sits you down and tries to tell you it’s time to grow up without breaking your spirit can be a difficult thing.

I look at some of the pricks running departments today and wonder how they ever were considered good enough to be in a position to affect someone’s whole life.

People like me don’t leave legacies.

The things we built were done with others, and they probably will be torn down and rebuilt again and again.

We just try to live a decent life, cry in private over what our country is turning in to and maybe leave things a little better than how we found them.

For people like me, our legacy is molding young men and women into something special and keeping their soul alive until they can survive on their own.

I guess that’s okay.

New Years Day 2013

It was a nice day this New Year as I stood on the corner and watched people go by.

I’ve noticed one thing good about being oldler: people don’t look at me as a pervert or mugger when I smile at them.

Thinking back I remember when I hit a certain age, maybe in my mid-to-late 40’s, women stopped glancing at me when they went by.

I guess I was officially “old” and people who were “old” just don’t register in their mind any more.

Not everyone wants to be admired but just recognized they exist.

When you’re a young lady your mind is on boys and work, as it should be.

But there’s something in the mind of someone that age doesn’t see an elderly person.

Sometimes that hurts because we are still relevent and useful.

There was the first time a woman told her friend at a party I was too old for her.
That put a huge damper on my evening so I left and went home.

A lot of sad things start to happen in your late 40’s.

Maybe it’s nature’s way to prepare us for our later years when we’re seen as mostly in the way.

Then, in my early 60’s, I became safe because I’m now really “old” and in their mind I shifted from a dirty old man to their favorite grandpa.

I remember my grandfather mentioning something about getting older when I was in high school.

I don’t remember what he said but I recall saying to myself I will be young and strong and athletic forever.

There seems to be a point in everyone’s life where you realize you are now old.

Not old in how I see myself, but realizing it’s how others see me.

I was upset when a teenager at the McDonald’s counter first started asking if I want the senior’s discount.

The first dozen or times I said something like, “Not there yet” and paid full price, even though I qualified.

Too proud, I guess.

I didn’t want to be old or have other people remind me I was.

After awhile I stopped fighting it and now simply nod and smile.

Of course they don’t ask anymore – they just know.

Sometimes I see the men at work, 30 years younger, looking across the room at me and I wonder if they’re waiting for me to retire and get out of the way so they have a chance to move up.

If the damn Congress would fix the economy I would love to.

Meanwhile, I am not useless.

Happy whatever

A neighbor asked me the olther and when I was going to put up the Christmas lights.

I don’t know if I will.

I remember when I started doing that 50 years ago and the whole block was lit up with people trying to outdo each other?
God that was a sight.

Last year only three people bothered.
It makes me wonder what the hell are we celebrating.

I was sitting in my office at home last night thinking about where the time went and how much things have changed.

When I was at the mall last week the decorations were going up and it was long before Thanksgiving.

And nobody calls it Christmas any more.
All over the mall were signs saying “Happy Holidays”.

Now it’s Kwanzaa and Festis and who knows what the hell else.
And don’t hang a cross on public land or some hippy, tree hugging college freshman in need of a boyfriend and a cold beer will start parading around with a sign.

I wonder what changed in our country’s soul?

The TV news doesn’t cover Christmas pageants because no one calls them that any more.

It’s all about how much money the stores are making and if they are going better or worse than the year before.

People are out buying because that have to give presents, not because they want to.

Merry Christmas.
Let’s call it what it is.